FARM LEADER NOTES
The FARM conversation can generate the opportunity to talk our mission. It's common for people to eventually ask what you do for a living. Here is where you can share about your mission and jump to the Message part of the conversation. As Christians, what we do is not who we are. Who we are is ambassadors on a mission with a message. 2 Corinthians 5:17.
When I'm asked this question, I respond by saying, "I show Christians how to make disciples." This leads to the following questions. First, I ask if the person is a follower of Christ. If they say no, I ask if they want to know more about the love, joy, and peace that come by knowing Jesus? If they say yes, I share a Starter story and do a mini DBS. Ask just one question, "What does this say about Jesus, to you?" I then follow up with asking if they want to know more stories to share with others. If they say yes, I schedule a time to show them how to do a full DBS.
If the person says they are a Christian, I ask if they know how to make disciples. If they say yes, I ask what they've learned. If they say no, I ask if they want to know how. If they say yes, I share a starter story with them and do a mini DBS. If they want to share them with others, I schedule another meeting where I show them how to do a full DBS like above.
The FARM Conversation is especially suited for those you don't presently know. The real harvest is among unknown relationships; the people we encounter every day who are willing to engage in conversation, ready to hear about the Bible, and who want to share it with others.
The FARM Conversation is question-driven. There is no limit to the number you can ask. Ask follow-up questions. Enjoy the dialogue. Get to know the person with whom you're conversing. Learn, understand, and discover. Have fun. If there is one thing most people are comfortable talking about, it is themselves.
The FARM conversation can incorporate follow up options. If you have more time to dialogue, you might ask if they have any spiritual questions for you. You'll be surprised how many people have unanswered spiritual questions.
If they don't want to know more and is someone you're not likely to see again, then thank them for the chance to get to know them. People need several different exposures to the gospel before they respond. Play your role in graciously releasing them for their next gospel encounter.
If they don't want to know more, but is someone you are likely to encounter again (a person at work, a family member), then your continuing ministry to that person is prayer and acts of love. Don't be surprised if at some time in the future they soften towards God. Either by accepting the invitation to learn more about God from you or another.
The FARM Conversation is other-focused. While it is good to share common interests, do so in a limited fashion. Remember, this is about the person you are talking with, not you.
The FARM Conversation is flexible. Depending on the situation, the entire conversation can take place in several minutes, over weeks, or even months. The key is advancing the conversation each time you encounter the person.
The FARM Conversation is a guide. The themes of Family, Academics (Occupation), Recreation, Message are suggestions. Don't let them restrict a spiritual conversation that doesn't follow the progression. Be open to the leading of the Holy Spirit.
You can do this, you will love this, because you are made for this.